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Proposing: Stay True to You

Posted on Dec 19, 2011 - 11:00 AM | Engagement | Comments (3)

By Katherine Schober

Susie told Mary, who told Rhonda, who told Spencer, who told Gary, who told Matt that you liked him. Unfortunately, Matt told Gary, who told Spencer, who told Rhonda, who told Mary and Sue, that he didn’t like you back.


These small-time love affairs were once our world. I’ve come to realize that from each relationship, our ability to love grows. It grows so much in fact that one day, we find ourselves face to face with the one we truly cannot live without, and chances are it wasn’t the telephone protocol that got us to this point.


So you’ve found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, now what? Most people would tell you there is a simple question to ask when you realize you’ve found the one, “Will you marry me?”


A proposal is so much more than a question. It’s finding the right moment, with the perfect location and most importantly, the right person. How you ask someone to spend the rest of their life with you is something that requires a lot of thought and planning.


In my opinion, you want to stay away from the most common proposals. Going back to the place you first met or had your first date is a sweet thought, but what if you guys go there all the time? That place may have special meaning, but a proposal is about the future, so I suggest picking a new “spot” to make your memories going forward.


Another popular way to propose is in the sky. I see the romanticism in this gesture, but have you seen the car commercial where the guy is chasing a plane carrying a banner proposal and his girlfriend keeps missing it? These types of proposals can be expensive and problematic.


For some reason, and I cannot begin to understand why, hiding a ring in foods or drinks are among the most popular proposals. I’ve seen it done in movies, and even witnessed first hand at a restaurant a few months back. I suggest moving away from this type of proposal for several reasons: it’s overdone, messy, and someone could choke.


Now you’re probably thinking, “So how do I pop the question if my top three ideas were just considered ‘common’ by some wedding blog writer?” Well, I’m glad you asked. It may seem like there isn’t an original idea left on this earth, but I encourage you to get creative and stay true to who you are.


Think about what makes your love so great. Perhaps you are both avid book readers and you replace their bookmark with a note. Or turn your weekend bike ride into a proposal with a breath taking view. Stick to what you’re good at, or conquer what you’re bad at. If you’re a terrible singer, propose through karaoke. Show your significant other that you put thought into this moment and with them by your side, you’re not afraid to sing in public.


My personal favorite, and a growing trend for marriage proposals this year, is the flash mob proposal. Not only do these proposals master the element of surprise, but the effort, practice and time it takes organizing a successful flash mob is sure to impress. Whether you love to dance or can’t keep a beat, it will undeniably be a moment both of you will never forget.


At the end of the day, a proposal should be more about a lifetime together than anything else. You don’t have to be creative to not be cliché. Just remember to think about what this person means to you and find a way to express that feeling the best way you know how. Whether through words, song or dance, your proposal should reflect some of your personality. After all, that is the reason they fell in love with you in the first place!

(Click here to watch my proposal pick of 2011. Jamin proposes to his unsuspecting girlfriend Valerie at Downtown Disney in September. We wish them a happy life together!)



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Comments (3)

1. Katherine - your blogs are very fresh! The topics may not be new ideas but your take on them is very interesting. Looking forward to reading more! And I'm not even engaged/married!
    Comment By Leah - Dec 27, 2011 10:51 AM

2. Wow, I must be old. I had no idea "flash mobs" were a proposal idea. That video is fantastic!
    Comment By Sandra Lee - Dec 21, 2011 9:57 AM

3. If your articles are aalwys this helpful, "I'll be back."
    Comment By Katherine - Dec 31, 1969 7:00 PM

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